Leery. . . you really don;t know if you made a good connection until you get on the mats. . . so many of these guys want to treat you like an escort instead of a fighter, it's just gross and disgusting. . I am a fighter, I love to wrestle and fight. . if some guy wants something else than that they need to go somewhere else, but the first time you meet someone you don;t know what to expect. . . some guys just try to see how much they can get away with. . etc. . honestly, private matches are not for everyone. . I know almost right away if I found a good connection; we respect one another and are there to have fun!